How To Get Over Anything!

Life is about how we handle the things that happen to us.  The ability to get up after knocked down in any way is a quality that we all seek, but not everyone finds.  That's called resiliency.  It's a term that isn't understood very well these days.  Resiliency is thriving even when times are tough.  It's being stretched beyond belief & snapping back into place without missing a step.  It's the stuff that helps us get through life without giving up.  Honestly, resiliency is one of those tools you'll always need in your life.

1. Believe In Yourself

It seems obvious, but in fact, you won't get very far without it. A resilient person is not cocky, but quite the opposite: you should have a clear sense of your own potential, capability and ability to cope & achieve a top trait of resilient people.

2. Be Able To See What Is Possible, While Also Seeing What Is

The most resilient people assess their surroundings as well as their own strengths & weaknesses, & know where they will excel & where they will fall short.  At the same time, they have a positive bias by expecting good things from the world & from other people.

3. Control Your Impulses & Feelings

With the ability to self-evaluate and assess a situation must come the willingness to manage the impulses & emoions that result.  The most resilient people don't combust over little (or big) things.  They take everything into account before they respond so that they don't make rash decisions or other actions they may regret.

4. Aim High And Reach Out

A resilient person doesn't curl up and die over the slightest rejection of failure.  In fact, she/he does the opposite; they expand and reach out even in the wake of crisis.  This is one of the most distinguishing characteristics or resilience:  Your ability to continue to aim high & reach for it, instead of lowering your standards, expectations, or efforts.

Know Your Value!

Men:

There are far too many men (married & single) who devalue their women and/or wives because they have made false assumptions that they are a gift to her.  The reality is, God gifted women/wives to men because they add value to your life that no other person, place or thing could.  Your woman/wife are God's gift to men/husbands so please start acting accordingly.

Women:

Let's start affirming our men/husbands instead of displaying an ungrateful attitude, negative spirit and/or a nagging spirit when we don't get our way or if things or done when we think he ought to do them.  I Corinthians 13, is a chapter of love. When you speak things in love, it can be fully received and request will be promptly and properly handled with his full attention.

Please read a book on marriage, relationships and/or good communication habits that will cultivate, grow and enhance your relationship/marriage.  Gary Chapman has written several good books to help increase better & effective communication skills so go to a bookstore or an online store and spend $20 to invest in your relationship.

"A man's greatest treasure is his wife--she is a gift from the Lord."
Proverbs 18:22

Top 4 Qualities You Should Possess When Seeking True Love!

1. Happiness within yourself:

You can't rely on someone else to make you happy. You need to be in love with yourself & God 1st then work towards putting your mindset in a happier place consistently.

2. Patience:

If you try and force love, you will miss opportunities that present themselves when the RIGHT PERSON comes along. Don't look for the perfect fit, just simply focus on doing what makes you happy and being the best version of you that you can possibly be and you will collide into the RIGHT person when you least expect it.

3. A Non-judgmental Attitude:

How many times do you or others pass judgement on people without knowing anything about the person?  We all have been guilty of it so don't lie to yourself as if you're perfect because non of are perfection; however, we do strive for perfection.

4. Honesty:

You need to make sure you're honest with yourself first and foremost.  Know what you like and find someone who share some of the same interests and hobbies and/or that's open minded to trying new things.  If you are true to the development of yourself that you know who you are, what you want, your chances of finding love will greatly increase and don't settle for Mr. or Ms. RIGHT NOW! Way too many of us have been guilty of this as well.