"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger!" ~ Proverbs 15:1
We all know that the power of life and death lies in the tongue and what we allow to come out of our mouths. "It's not what you say, but how you say it." This is the key to communication in any relationship. Ladies and Gentleman, do you know when it's best to listen and not talk? Of course not, that is why you have such toxic, unfulfilling relationship that's beyond frustrating. Do you have a man that doesn't like to express himself? There is a root, reason why and more than likely it's the way you communicate to him. Have you thought about this, "When he begins to speak, just listen & take 10-15 seconds to think, gain understanding & then speak. Men are simple and simple minded. They don't over think or complicate things so ladies you need to s-p-e-l-l things out for them literally. When an issue or subject matter comes up that can't be quickly resolved, AGREE TO DISAGREE and move on to say something positive. Men like to be affirmed in positive words of encouragement. The way a man's mind work is when he hears the positive first, he will understand that you just have something to talk to him about.
"Everyone should quick to listen, slow to speak & slow to become angry!" ~ James 1:19
Anger comes from the lack of understanding within communication. Understanding is gained by a persons actions leading up to a persons word. Remember you cannot change a person, only God can do that. Using good communication methods can help you ease the issues and avoid problems. Respond to hate with love, and not more hate. God is love and love conquers all. Remember, you have to do different things to have different results.
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